Talk like a man
You don’t really have to be male to talk like one, you see (to state the bleeding obvious). One, erm… lives and learns.
“It’s her duty as a wife to live with him and look after him in his old age. What do you mean he was emotionally dismissive?”
Translation: After a lifetime of being treated like an emotional and intellectual doormat i.e. her primary function being to cook, clean, look pretty and nod assent when everybody gushed over her surgeon husband who had actually played cricket for the country (lucky woman!), she decided enough was enough. At the ripe retirement age of 60. And chose to go live with her daughter in the U.S, start a business, make friends of her own and get a life. But this is unacceptable, of course. Ungrateful little shit. What about the poor man? He just can’t cope with the weather in
“Her son’s a weakling, he’s never going to do well. She should support him in every way. It’s her duty as a mother. Why does she want to buy jewellery at this age? She’s 70, for God’s sake! It’s not as if anyone’s going to look at her. He needs her help, she's his mother!”
Context: Hamara Bharat mahaan (‘
Translation: One of her sons is a loser. This suits his very successful siblings and extended family since it provides them with a ready made travel agent, chauffeur, concierge, payer of bills etc. They pay his (and his unfortunate wife’s) rent, in return. Except for one small problem. He now wants to procreate. And wants Mama to help with extra money, and childcare and and and. Mama, widowed young and without supports, has worked very hard for her money, until she retired 5 yrs ago. She’s never bought jewellery for herself. Until she came by an inheritance. Recently. Which she should donate to the loser-procreator-turned-mard (more Hindi). Naturally.
Translation: She’s focused on her work and has no time for gendered office games viz. popping cleavage, flirting, playing the sex card, living up to the 'feminine' stereotype etc. However, if she was a man, acceptable descriptors would include, ‘incredibly focused and determined’, ‘dresses like a typical intellectual’, 'he's so focused he's not bothered about what he wears', 'typical absent-minded Professor-in-the making' etc.
“She’s a frigid cunt”
Translation: However much I try, she won’t sleep with me. Because she has
1) Better taste; and/or
2) Other priorities.
“She’s a fuckin’ nympho”
“She’s really vicious/ a ballbreaker/ jor ”
“He’s looks like a tough bastard, all right, but he’s a useless henpecked git around that wife of his” “He’s completely under that babe’s thumb, mate, effin’ idiot”
Gender of speaker: Male
Context: Universal. Boys being boys, doing Man stuff viz. getting drunk, watching football/cricket, working on that cute beer belly etc.
Translation: He seems to have fun hanging out with his partner/girlfriend. He even gets wasted with her, for Chrissakes! The idiot goes to frickin’ art galleries! He even cooks for her. Stays at home on Fridays, watching effin’ DVDs. Hilarious. And he doesn’t talk about birds. Forget fit birds. But can’t tell him this, because he can be a bit of a bastard, that one. What a loser. Fuck ‘im, mate. C’mon, let’s have another drink. Pass the fries, will ya?
And finally, my favourite, from a ‘liberated’ Indian man who married for ‘love’.
“Change into Indian clothes when we stopover in
Translation: Now that I have satisfied my intellectual need to feel ‘liberal’ by dating, living in with and then marrying a woman ‘not suitable for my parents’ (no, they aren’t the ones marrying her jointly, in case you wondered), I need to maintain a charade of ‘respecting tradition’, ‘keeping them happy’, ‘showing that she will adjust’ by making sure she switches her jeans for a salwar in a toilet in Dubai airport. Just so that she is not improperly clad when we arrive in
Change in London? What d'you mean? What if someone saw her? These things count at work, y'know.
Note: This post has been anonymized. Googling the surgeon who played cricket for